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All Parents Want to Love Their Children
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If I have told you once,
I have told you a
hundred times.
Have you lost your mind?
What has gotten into you?
What were you thinking?
Why did you do that?
What a stupid move I
Have you heard yourself
saying these things to your
child? How would you feel if
someone said them to you?
When a child is born, most
parents feel warm and loving
toward their cuddly, depen¬
dent baby. They may find
the new experience
overwhelming, but they
feel they can handle it.
But later, when the child
is cranky, when the crying
does not stop, or when he or
she becomes ill, grows up,
and begins to talk back,
then parents clamor for
information — now what do
we do?
The secret of parenting is to
give the child a loving foun¬
dation of care and support
in the early years.
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To thrive, every child needs to know
someone who is crazy about him or her.
(Bronfenbrenner, 1976)
We can't ignore children.
We have to give them warmth and love.
We can't burden them with adult stress.
They are not ready to handle it and have
not developed positive coping strategies.
What’s A Parent to Do?
Respond to your child’s cues and clues. You
must help your children develop trust in you.
This means that your children know you will
meet their needs. Learn to read your children’s
cues and clues so you can meet their needs.
When children know they will be taken care
of, they are less likely to be fretful. They can
relax, and crying is reduced. This foundation is
built in the first year of life, but it is critical for a
lifetime. Children who receive warm and loving
care are more likely to feel safe and secure with
the adults who care for them. This gives them
the ability to bounce back when stressed.
Accept your child for who he or she is, but
expect success. Children are all different. They
have different temperaments; some are easy-go¬
ing, some are shy or slow to warm-up, some are
more intense, and some experience difficulty
with transitions. You can tell your children that
you expect success, but you may have to tell
them specifically what that means (such as,
“complete your homework,” or “ pick up the
toys on the floor in your room”). They don’t
know what you expect if you don’t talk about
your expectations. When you expect success,
you help to build confidence because you are
showing that you believe in your children.